Love takes many forms and is also each time different. You can have a passionate love, secret admirer, old love, young love, long love, short love, intense love, discreet love, puppy love, light love, quick love…
But whatever kind of love it might be, it always hurts when it’s over. It can lead to serious heartaches. As a young adolescent I read all about the matter in glossies, such as Teen Vogue or the Elle Girl. For a long time I seriously thought it was some kind of sickness. According to the glossies, eating lots of chocolate and watching sobby movies with your friends was the only way to get over it. But when I was 15 and my heart was broken for the first time, this was the last thing on my mind. I thought I was lost, the world was coming to an end and the sadness would never stop.
This of course eventually passed, and yes, chocolate and sobby movies with friends actually did help. But even now, on a Sunday evening home alone on the couch I can still remember the exact feeling of that 15-year-old little girl that felt so lost.
And then there’s that wonderful day: Valentine’s Day. A day that can be very depressing for all the single people out there, including the single Roamlers. That’s why we asked the Dutch Roamlers to give tips on how to treat heartaches. As love is different to everyone, the different cures that people have to treat the heartaches are different as well. And I know I’m not alone out there: almost everyone has experienced it and has learned to cope with it.
The chocolate and movies mentioned before were one of the leading tips that many Roamlers treated their heartache with. But also drinks (lots of drinks), including the hangover the next day, seemed to occupy the broken hearted. Even though, many Roamlers say that this is a short-term solution and that for the long run a higher fence is needed. Unless you run into the new love of your life during your night out, which happened to be the case for one Roamler. They even got married! Aside from booze to heal the wounds, a lot of comfort food passed by: cookies, chips and candy. But to top it all off: Ben&Jerry’s ice cream plus chocolate. Or even better: Ben&Jerry’s chocolate ice cream.
Music helps you get through the day as well. The Dutch Roamlers mentioned sobby music like Celine Dion and Johnny Cash, for the descriptive lyrics on heartaches. Taking an example of the big love song writers, some Roamlers wrote down their feelings and made songs out of it. Processing your feelings can also be great by focusing more on your hobbies like gaming, knitting, working out, socializing with friends or taking a good walk in the outdoors.
Talking about your feelings and crying with friends and family were also mentioned as good tips. And if they have had enough of you, then there’s always mankind’s best friend. Cuddling with your pets gives you hope and warmth. Especially dogs have been great companions for many Dutch Roamlers. Some dogs have even been bought especially for the occasion to fill up the emptiness.
And if all of this still doesn’t help mending the heartbreak, you can always take a vacation in some foreign country of maybe even live there for a short period of time. You’re in a new environment with new people and you get a sort of fresh start, without the bad memories and grief.
Bit by bit every one of these tips may be useful and we’re hoping that these tips can help some of you to get through this day. If Roamler had existed when I was 15, I might have gotten over it a lot quicker.
I’m still curious to know if the Dutch Roamlers missed some crucial tips to treating lovesickness? Do you have a tip or a bizarre story that helped you get over your heartaches? Feel free to post it here and hopefully you can help a fellow single Roamler with getting through Valentine’s Day.